I'd like to better direct the anxiety I feel when something isn't going as planned, i.e. a workshop or coaching session. (I had practice doing it, just now, when trying to come up with a good way of expressing this! :))

Thanks, Kerrie. On vacation so a bit of a delay in responding, sorry!

I know what you mean about this type of anxiety. I would guess there are ways to channel it productively.

I'm working on stopping to pay attention to the knot in the stomach, the tightening chest, the sudden headache...it almost always means I'm having an emotional reaction to something, but if I'm rushing along I stop to listen to what my body is trying to tell me, and I live to regret. Stopping to tune in is very challenging for me, but wonderful when I get it

To me it is very simple. When you care more about the other person than you do about yourself (no matter who the other person is), the emotional suicide bomber never appears... Regardless of your internal emotional state, who cares!!

This can sound hard, but just at the beginning it will arrive a time when this won´t bother you anymore.

And something else, to try to do something doesn´t work, or you do it or you don´t.

Hi Janet. Yes, knowing the physical signs are crucial to better self management of EQ.

I'm a nail biter :0

Thanks, Debra. Really good point.

On repetition:

I find when I have to repeat something to someone either I did a poor job in delivering the information the first time or they are not ready to understand it.

I now try to say it a different way while probing for understanding. If they don't seem to be "getting it" I do my best to change the subject and try to think up ways as to how we can proceed without that person ever understanding or learning my point (which probably only really matters to me and not them anyway).