One hopes you had the foresight to make the first meeting a short one, like coffee rather than dinner. Anyone can make polite conversation for 30 minutes or so with anyone. Even plug ugly can be interesting for a brief period. Then you thank her and leave. Come on, something about her interested you in the first place. Find it and be charming.

well i like planning first dates with finite time limits... i would be polite and if i was very disappointed i would mention that the pictures werent quite accurate and ask for an explanation. If there was no connection at all (which after they lied the odds are there would be none) I would thank them for their time wish them good luck and leave post coffee/martini in about 40 mins flat

As others stated, there was something that intersted me in the first place -- just need to explore that a bit more and, in the process, perhaps bring up the question why it was necessary to misrepresent.

Truthfully, I'd probably get more FIRST dates if I'd fudge about my appearance, but I get enough slaps in the face when I'm honest about it, so I don't need that kind of rejection. When I finally DO find someone who will accept my appearance, I usually end up with a close long-term friendship.

If I WERE to fudge, it would be because of my insecurities. Thus, if the person truly had other areas that interested me, then I'd gain a new friend and that person would become a little less insecure. Win-win situation.

it amazes me the number of men who the first thing they ask is can I see your private pictures on dating sites they do not care one whit about my mind, personality etc unless my picture matches some frame work they have in their minds.

I have no problem understanding that men are visual creatures and the once in a while someone says not attracted I usually get wow you are hot why do you hide your pictures...

Looks are important to me but if you can't engage my mind you will never engage my body and I have dated men who aren't considered traditionally attractive but we great men with great minds... and if I was stuck on their pictures I never would have gotten past that.