Posted: Jul 13, 08 9:38am
There is and has been a lot of sweeping generalities about patterns and habits and doing the same thing over and over again...
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
So if you bash men or women and expect that they won't react to the bashing or the reactions will change slightly insane...
So what I am getting to is what do you do to break your patterns, to change what you have done with negative results for your dating life... how do you choose people differently, present yourself differently and grow?
Me I analyze things for a living so I tend to look at people and reactions and think about them... How do I grow and change and be better faster stronger for my future? Well I take courses on improving me, I try new things solo and with groups, I read a lot, I try and look at things with a different angle than I normally would twisting it this way and that to find something new and different. I also swing my mindset, I travel and meet new people and that helps give me different insights to new friends and old ones. I have realized as I get older I need to grow and learn and blossom into a better me.
To that end I have dropped non positive friendships over the years that seemed to go no where and suck the life out of me where the people weren't growing but staying in their ruts of their own choosing and making. I have dropped a lot of collecting and cluttering out of my life other than items that have meaning. I have learned to count my blessing and my friends who bless me and treasure them keeping in touch with them no matter the effort and offer them the chance to grow with me and read books etc on the subject if that interests them. I have learned to speak my mind rather than letting subjects that bother me fester. And I learned to join and try new experiences like TBD... but in the spirit of my growing just this morning i decided that I was going to stop posting to a certain members threads and giving him the negative attention he was seeking because nothing he has to say is positive or intelligent thought provoking it all written to inflame and stroke his ego and reinforce his inherent negative beliefs. There is nothing to be learned in his posts other than most women feel the same way about him and some men too... And I shouldn't contribute to the negative while trying to work on the positive.
So what do you do to break out of your own self imposed ruts, to grow to learn to be a better stronger faster more desirable person for the opposite sex and yourself...?
