Not really. I figure if the electricity was there, we would both not hesitate to follow up.

Yes. I have done that and didnt realize it.

After spending hours cooking a nice dinner, getting flowers and everything ready before she would come home (at the same time night after night) she never called to say she would be late or already had dinner. I stopped cooking dinner for two.

That ought to be true, but it's not always so. Sometimes one will perceive that the other may not be enjoying themselves, and presume that further dating would be a no-go. At the same time, the other person was simply feeling a bit awkward and being more restrained than usual, but would have loved the opportunity to meet the person again. Working on assumptions and presumptions can often be costly.

We project these feelings on other people. They are our feelings not others. The only person that you can be responsible for is you. Expecting others to act the way you feel they should act is very costly and often ends in heartache.

I did when I was very young. I try to keep my kids out of that extremely common behavior. I think it's something that "everybody" (major generalization?)has to experience for themselves before they really understand that other people that we (romantically) like or even know well and love CAN'T read our minds!!

If you had told me I was this kind of person, I would never have believed you, but I recently had an experience with someone that proved the point.

Since then, I have worked on letting go of expectations.

So far, it's been a very freeing exercise, but I am a work in progress...