Gut feelings are a good start. If you meet someone for coffee, there is less pressure to stay if it doesn't work out. I think most guys are like you (nervous) to actually meet. The ones I would worry about are the married guys trying to pass themselves off as single or the rebounder's just out of a long term relationship.

Both experiences are best to avoid. Don't go into it with your heart (in the beginning), use your head. Hope this helps...have fun!

Yes the things you say are true who knows they can tell you their heir to a castle in germany. My god sister lived in ny and a man came and told her he was a prince of Africa his father King. She believed him married him her parents purchased a home for them in Africa,little to say he was no prince his father wasnt a king. They had a baby and than he brought woman to their home,had affairs right under her nose. They found her dead hanging from the railing on steps of their home. He kept the home and made it to look like a suicide with note and all her parents took it to a professinal to analyze handwritting wasnt hers! The aunt, her sister is raising the baby. He buried my godsister sitting on a chair,they say thats how people are buried in Africa. I dont know why she wasnt taken to be buried in her home town of ny. instead of Africa. so please if it feels wrong run ladies run.

I havent had bad experiences at TBD so far, but if we talk about match.com I cant agree more with you. I canceled my subscription after a while because of your same reasons.

I know two couples that are happily marriage and they met at match.com. But I think they are the exceptions to the rule; and I certainly would like to be wrong about this.

Do you remember the girl from Long Island it was made into a tv show she was dating a married man and he talked her into shooting his wife his name i believe was joey bartafucco if I am spelling it correctly. Well his wife had been paralyzed and had to eat soft foods etc etc well her name is something fisher cant remember but she met her husband on match.com and they have 2 beautiful boys,now she wants to make porno movies and her husband says okay go figure?

I have always been hesitant to the on-line dating thing, mainly by learning of other people experiences, but... there are exceptions. I tried it once, found some real strange things on board; some people have been doing this for 10 years -and found no one special but continue looking (of course their pictures are never updated...)Do they know what they are looking for? To me, it is a game for most.

Other options to meet "the one?"

I agree with meeting someone through a friend (kind of "with references") but.. even then... it is a chance...

Honestly there's something about the energy here at TBD that makes me feel extremely uncomfortable. I have never fit in with my age group. I was 40 when I was 5. I thought maybe now that I'm in my forties, and this is an over 40 group, I'd finally fit in. Nope. I must be a 70-year-old in a 47-year-old body that actually looks 35. lol

Honestly there's something about the energy here at TBD that makes me feel extremely uncomfortable. I have never fit in with my age group. I was 40 when I was 5. I thought maybe now that I'm in my forties, and this is an over 40 group, I'd finally fit in. Nope. I must be a 70-year-old in a 47-year-old body that actually looks 35. lol