Posted: Dec 28, 07 8:30pm
This question came up at a pre-Xmas brunch we threw. Lubricated with cocktails and plenty of yummy breakfast foods, we whiled away the afternoon talking about all sorts of stuff from going to a nude beach with your parent (avoid if possible) to whether or not we could eat fois gras and be guilt free (sadly, no).
The answers to question threw me for a loop. One friend said as a married woman she's only comfortable with having casual, work-related male friends. And a limited amount of those, too. In fact, this Gen X friend wouldn't feel right hanging with a man friend for a few hours on Saturday.Clearly, for her, emotional closeness would be cheating.
Me, I kinda feel the same way. I so value the closeness and intimacy I have with my hubby. I'm torn between two ideas. The trials we've survived in 2 short years of marriage make our pretty close.
There isn't a good reason for either of us to mess with that. I'm the one my swubby should share his deep thoughts with.
On the other hand...
I'm old enough to know that one person can't be everything for or to another. I'm not the die-hard jazz fan he'd like so I understand when he goes with bandmates. And, I"m sure the conversation hit areas no female is meant to hear. I know they help and support him in ways I can't.
So, I punt. It really depends on what, when and who because...you just never know what you can survive for love. thanks for answering
ciao, dina
