That's one the of the pleasures of being single - my gold, my rules, no discussions.

It is true what sucks for me is that it is my wife that makes the gold. This means that she has most of the power. She makes all the financial decisions and holds the gate keeper of our sex life. I often feel I have no cards to play. And often I think she resents me for taking care of the kids even though she asked me to and says th kids are not ready for me to go back to work. Even when I do return to work i will not earn as much as she does. But I can't waight to start making some money. The other problem is that she is a woman that likes presents. But if I get her one she ends up getting mad at me for spending money. It is a catch 22.

I love my wife that is for sure. However being in a non traditional relationship with a woman that wants a traditional romance and her demanding career is hard as hell

I find that a very selfish notion in a marriage "who ever makes the gold rules" that is nonsense! And the road to divorce!

Nothing in a marriage is 50/50.

An odd way to create a serene home with a mate. A controlling mate might think who ever makes the most money rules the marriage.

Families need to hire a housekeeper if housework is a sore spot and you feel it needs to be 50/50.

We share in each others joy earning a good living for "us" for "our family" It's our money and we enjoy it together and only discuss it when it's a big purchase. We are considerate of each other on all levels.

For many years he out earned me by double or more, and I was in charge of all the finances. I earn more now and it has not changed.

No, as Justin says: momma makes all the rules and major decisions, and dad had better abide by them without serious complaint if wants any access at all to her special anatomy.

Maybe one of the reasons that I can still say I am happily married after 40 years is that we never saw money as power. We were almost always a two income family except for the two years my wife took off to have two children. Do you really think that I should have walked all over her for two years since she was not bringing in money?

Presently, my wife is the primary breadwinner - I retired almost 5 years ago. I do have equity that produces income, a part-time business and a part-time private practice, but I no longer bring anywhere near 50% of the income into the home. Much of mine arrives in little envelopes every month. I do have to keep my wrist strong to cut open the envelopes but that doesn't compare to her working full-time and having to leave the house at 7 AM most mornings.

During the years I had my own businesses, I often had an income that was twice hers. Should I have had 66.66% of the power? And now, should she have about the reverse? You know what they would call us if we lived like that, don't you? Divorced!

For those that consider money the source of power, I believe many of them find that the divorce lawyers get the preponderance of it in the end.

I know plenty of couples live by the "who brings home the gold rules" philosophy, but I think that's a recipe for disaster. To me, it means the couple only values the materialistic aspects of the relationship.

In a healthy marriage, all big decisions are negotiated and agreed to. In some cases both spouses work and bring in money. In other cases, there has been a decision for one spouse to stay home and contribute to the relationship by caring for children and household. As long as both are contributing in their own way, then rules should be made jointly. I think allowing money to be the power broker can only lead to anger an resentment in the end.