It depends whether your loss is hormonal, psychological,relational or due to medications. If you have a fairly good idea why you've lost desire you know how to attack the situation.

Well, I'm not taking meds so strike that one down. My relationship seems in good shape... psychological, probably mostly good. I know for the first half of my cycle I'm insatiable and the second half I'm as uninterested as could be... my guess is it's probably mostly hormonal.. so now what! Both halves of my cycle are th pits!

I just posted about this in the Testosterone patch thread if you want to read it.

I too lost my sex drive but I think it had to do more with my relationship with my husband. I'm sure hormones played a part but his lack of respect and affection was a bid factor. Since we are getting divorced I find my drive has come back stronger than it had for a long time.

Hi Lillian, I wish I could pin it on my relationship. After I got divorced ten years ago, I experienced a similar surge! It was great! My confusion stems from the fact that for the first half of my cycle, I'm ready! After I ovulate, it's get away! The contrast is really weird. I thought it might have something to do with peri but I haven't heard that from anyone... how about you?

When I was still getting my period I did notice changes during my cycle. I have been period free for one year now so I am technically out of peri and into menopause. Now I don't notice the swings as much.

I'm not sure if it's because my menopause was brought on by surgery (hysterectomy five years ago), but loss of sex drive if one thing I've not had to deal with - much to the delight of my husband! Don't get me wrong, I'm dealing with EVERYTHING else menopause-related, but fortunately, loss of sex drive isn't on the list.

Now, if I could just get rid of the other gazillion things ON the list - life would be great!