Posted: Aug 9, 08 11:20am
My husband can be very and sometimes, so much so, I wonder how he can live with the stress of it. He has never been diagnosed, but his children have been with OCD.
One of them is very ritualistic and the other is full of fear and compulsively lies about nonsensical things. This can create much discord at night sometimes and can prompt my husband to lose control of his anger.
My husband is obsessed with cleaning and money. If he feels even a bit out of sorts he will become angry and make comments that hurt feelings or bang things around that they may break. He is irrational. He talks of divorce and separation and if I even mention that I do not want to live like this, then I am telling him I am leaving and he will start discussing splitting the bills and me having all the furniture. You can't calm him down at all. In time he becomes calm and generous and loving. He never apologizes, he just acts as if it never happened.
He has never become violent towards a person or animal, only slamming, banging and total disregard for things. I am not scared of violence either. He would never hurt anything.
If I approach him with consuling or even medication through our GP he will deny he has any problems and blow off anything I say. Every now and again he will be trying to calm the oldest daughter down from one of her fear episodes and tell her he knows he has issues too and should be on medication but can't bring himself to go, but he has never admitted that to me.
Any suggestions?
