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An inspiratiional reading,just when I needed,wanted to share

Posted: Jun 10, 08 7:54pm

"I think these difficult times have helped me to understand better than before how infinitely rich and beautiful life is in every way and that so many things that one goes around worrying about are of no importance whatsoever. ISAK DNESEN

When I lost my dad,even while he was dying,it was like reliving my mother's death 5yrs before.The same living room,hospital bed,hospice.

I've come to the conclusion,no matter how old you are,losing a parent is still so hard.You can think you're prepared,but at least in my case,no.Even more so with my dad.The last parent,gone.

I try to look at life more positive.I've been emotional.I've been mourning.Now,I want to remember my parents without that ache.

And even though they were the age they were when they passed,both said at the end,they didn't know it would be so soon,it went by so fast.

This reading says it,there is so much beauty in life.And when I look back on life,worry,yes.Not saying it wasn't resaonable,just at times,a great waste of energy.

So,it's time to look,stop,enjoy,take it all in.Heal,be happy,live.That's what I'm sure my parents are saying to me.

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DoofsterDan

Posted: Jun 10, 08 9:44pm

You're absolutely right, of course, but our environment forces us off course, unless you live in an idyllic commune, are Amish, or are my brother. We think we need 'things' so we hop on the treadmill, sacrificing our very existence. But I'm not sure I want my children eating out of dumpsters because Dad wants 'one-ness with the universe.'

To me, there is NOTHING that puts things in perspective as waiting anxiously in a hospital or preparing for a funeral. Time stands still, and all the major concerns of yesterday seem so irrelevant. Once we undertake responsibility--like a mortgage, car payment, or family obligation--the compromising begins, I'm afraid.

VERY TRUE about worry being a great waste of energy. EXCELLENT point!

You may also like to read, "Five People You Meet in Heaven" by Mitch Albom--it's a short book, quick read, and may help bring some closure. Also, "90 Minutes in Heaven," by Don Piper. You won't feel the same about death after reading these.Uplifting, not maudlin.

So sorry about your loss--glad you felt you could post your sentiments. You're not alone.

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maggieh

Posted: Sep 15, 08 2:18pm

margevans wrote:

This reading says it,there is so much beauty in life.And when I look back on life,worry,yes.Not saying it wasn't resaonable,just at times,a great waste of energy.

So,it's time to look,stop,enjoy,take it all in.Heal,be happy,live.That's what I'm sure my parents are saying to me.

I don't know what made me click into this post but I am so glad that I did. Since my husband died I have been keenly aware of the fact that life is too short and that too much time is given to worry. So I became more appreciative of the beauty life has to offer. However, in the last couple of months I slipped- not even realizing it. I have allowed my job to stress me right out. I needed to read this post to remind me of the important things and somehow let go of the worry- the wasted energy.

Thanks

Maggie

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