You have had to deal with two major blows recently--I am sorry to hear about your husband and your child. While I haven't lost a spouse, I did lose my mother in 1998 and my 18 year old daughter in 2002 and I know how difficult it can be.

I agree with you--one day at a time is the only way to handle it. It is like riding the waves. Sometimes we can ride the crest from one to the next. Other times we end up in the trough and the water comes crashing down on us. Sometimes we have to cry--we can't always hold it in. Crying is like a tea kettle releasing steam. Once we shed a few tears, the pressure isn't quite as unbearable and we can face life again.

We do grow stronger but the path is not one we would have chosen for ourselves. Life does go on but there are days when we wonder how it will or if we will go along with it. The pain doesn't ever go away but we learn to live with it.

And we find that reaching out to others who are experiencing the same types of loss helps to ease our own sorrow.

So, Txrose51, know that you are not alone in your journey. Sometimes you may feel so alone but there are people like me who also share your pain. Together we can be strong. Kris

Hi TX. I lost my only child in a tragic way. He was murdered and is hailed a hero by the DA because although he lost his life, in doing so he saved someone else's.

There's something that strikes me about your posting. You seem to be doing so exceptionally well. But having lost not only my son, but also my brother within a short timeframe of each other,I hope that I can comment freely.

Are you really ok? If you are, please share the key to your content. I find it most helpful to cry, whereas you don't want to.

Do you think that we should all grieve similarly? I'm asking because I'd really like to know your perspective.

Thanks/

Your stories are so sad, and yet you are all so strong. You are an inspiration to us all. Reading your stories reminds me that we should all be sure that our loved ones are reminded every day, that we love them. We could lose any of them in a blink of an eye. Thank you for sharing your stories. It must have been painful for you. God Bless you.

I'm sorry for your loss. I lost a sister in 2003, my mom in 2005 and my adoptive father died in March-my brother just told me last week. We were estranged. The grief isn't overwhelming but I seem to be here one minute and off somewhere else another minute. I have been in the death force for some time now. I use work and school and my businesses to get through things. Thanks for your advice about taking care of yourself, because that's something I think we forget to do when someone dies.

K