The late Gilda Radner said it best as Roseanne Roseannadana on SNL: "It's always SOMETHING!"

And who was it that said "Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans."

tweedle

Have a great life. No good deed competition going on here.

You're so right, Dotcom. That's exactly what my therapist says - "ya gotta do the things that feed you" and sometimes delicately shirk a little responsibility now and then. I should take lessons from my 20-yr old son. He seems to be really good at it :)

Things are looking up - hoping to have Dad back home soon, and we'll get into a more standard pattern of geriatric management, just like we had with my Mom ('cept Dad seems to have his wits about him).

Thanks all for the encouraging thoughts!

Hi, tweedle! These life-changing events are probably even tougher for you to deal with now, on the eve of Mother's Day. You and I are kindred-spirit tbd pals, and have been communicating through it all; and I do feel that you've generally handled such significant life traumas,(your dear mom's passing, then, your dad's fall, subsequent surgery, and recovery), falrly well!

It is an extremely difficult, often sad walk, tweedle. However, the fact that you are getting help from a professional is good; and it sounds like you're being reminded to look for little simple, daily joys, even when you don't feel like it:

Taking escapes,such as walks in nature, breaks, venting to your friends/family, writing/journaling about it; and, all-importantly, you are a talented musician, and YOU KNOW how healing music can be; these are all important keys to help you through these trying,worrying-blues times.

Please hold on, remember to do sometimes what may feel selfish, but positive things, just for YOU, and please keep us posted; because, we care about you!

Do you belong to a caregiver support group? If there isn't anything local, you might want to do a search on Google. They are out there and there's probably a group near you! You just have to seek them out.

Members usually offer support and ideas on what you can do to make the situation more tolerable. It's difficult for everyone and you are not alone.