Posted: Jan 10, 08 8:10pm
Hello,
I'm a woman in my early 50's whose parents are still alive. After my parents' divorce those many, many years ago, I was raised by my mother. My father, who remarried, severed all contact with me when I was an adolescent (I'm his only child) because his 2nd wife didn't want any memories of his past around - ME. They adopted instead and I grew up without a father ... never a 'Daddy's Girl'. I no longer hold it against him but, since I made it this far without him, what's the use now?
Last week, I received a letter from him declaring he NOW wants to be part of my life, and the lives of the grandchildren, whom he doesn't know neither.
The child they adopted (who is in her late 40's now) -- this person who had my birth-right -- has moved to Germany with her family to be with her bio-mother, leaving the adoptees high and dry -- and now my father wants ME & MINE in his life. Although I've written last year that I 'forgive him', I say it's a lot of nerve, and I am not interested. As I told him in my letter, "You've made your choices, so it's okay to feel at peace in living with them".










