Firstly, Roger, I'm no psychiatrist, so take what I say for what it's worth. It's just life experience talking. . .try to look at this relationship problem from her perspective - not yours for a minute. What do you think is the root cause of her insecurity? If you love her completely are you willing to hear WHY she feels the way she does and take significant steps to soothe her feelings? She is screaming for help solving her own feelings of insecurity in your relationship. She wants to know not just in words, but in actions that she is the only one for you. Why don't you step away from your past for a moment and begin your relationship again - TODAY. Start over. Treat her like you just met her and like she is the most beautiful woman you've ever seen. Give no energy to the past and your mistakes just begin every day as the new man you are willing to be for her complete with the responsibility for your relationship and it's fidelity. Roger, in my life, what I think about grows - I've demonstrated that over and over again. Why not stop thinking about past infidelities and start thinking about your committed relationship and how much that means to you. In time, she will come along. If not, than she isn't really the love of your life - is she? Honestly, reading your thoughts I felt like you spend a lot of energy on the past. Maybe you should re-read what you wrote and see if you can see what I see from an outsiders perspective. The past is meaningless. The future of your relationship is who you are right now. Are you willing to be the man she needs and wants? If you truly are ready than she will surely see it. I hope this helps you in some small way. Best of luck, LT :-)

There is an old saying I heard once. It goes like this. "If he/she cheated with you, he/she will cheat on you." You'll have to prove this is wrong and you'll have to prove it over and over again.

Good Luck.