Posted: Apr 29, 08 3:58pm

My husband cousin ratted him out. When confronted with it, he tried to play it off as it meant nothing, it was one time and i just don't know why i did it?

But after the initial hollering, cursing, and putting him out, he said it was my fault. That my attitude and depression drove him to it.

But you know that is real funny.

For the last 14 years(the last 8 we were married, still married for now), i have stood by this man through his drug addition(up and downs), going to jail on several times, dealing with his staying out late(sometimes until the sun came up), yaking his whole pay check and binging on drugs. And yet i still held it together, and pick him back up and put him on the right track. i took care of our homes, our daughters, all the bills.

So yeah, i had an deep down depression with an attitude from all this cramp i had to endure to try and save my marriage, family and husband.

Just forgiving every time he messed up, moving on to another day, but never allowed to expressed or released my anger or depression.

I been through so much with this man and his drug addition, but never thought that infidelity would come into play. And he blame me for his mistakes.

But like my title says, "forgiving was the easy part", it was every thing he did and said after he was outed.

I just want to "Forget" and move on. I am doing okay, I don't think about it much. The only thing that really hurts me about this situation is that he doesn't even try to see his daughter, and believe me no matter what has happen between me and him has no bearing on him being there for his daughter. He doesn't call them, haven't seen them, or help provide for them.

I tried to explain to him that, he can still come spend time with his kids. It's not fair that he using me putting him out as an excuse.

What do you do?

Any advice out there?