Posted: Jan 11, 08 10:27pm
My wife cheated some years ago. I was having major depression because my oldest son (by a previous marriage) almost died from a gunshot to the head. He will never be the same as before because it took out most of the frontal lobe. However, while I was in this state my wife found an old BF and had a short affair. Afterwards a couple of months later she went to work and a one night stand with her boss. She has an emotional thing for him for the last 17 years. She tells me she has often thought and has had dreams of him and once tried to find him but was unsuccesful. She has not seen him again after that one time or her BF either. But for all of these years she has not talked about it with me. I tried to raise the subject after it happened but my mind was not all there.
Now that I am better I find that I need to talk about it as I can think better. Really this depression and high anxiety had me out of it until recently. I couldn't focus on my thoughts with all of the medication I was taking. But now I find myself reliving all of it again as if it happened last week. What are your opinions on how I should go about opening this up with her? And what should I ask of her? How much should she tell me?
