I had a lover once who would reach orgasm really easy and fast and any talking or moaning would only expedite this. (this is actually again a reference to mental sex i guess) Anyways she would only cum once and was pretty well spent afterwards, so to extend our session i refrained from talking or moaning too loudly and adjusted my movements or position so i could keep her on the edge until i was close to being ready myself. When i did begin to moan it was almost certain we would cum at the same time or very close to it. The only time it didnt happen that way was when she was in control. When she was on top for instance i was always moaning and talking a bit, and during a blowjob, well she had total control of that so moaning couldnt be quieted.

Perhaps he has had a lover that was like that in the past and reacted the same way but hasnt changed his habit with you. Most of the time i am verbal and never quiet my moaning. Each lover is very different from the previous so maybe just talking with him about it would perhaps make him aware of it, it may be that he is in fact just a quiet guy who concentrates on his performance (too much mental) and doesnt relax enough to fully let go and experience it. Thats what it was like for me when i was younger, if i "experienced" and felt it too too much i would cum too fast, ya know the whole think about baseball or something...lol

Anthony,

Thank you so much for taking the time to talk about this. What you said makes a lot of sense.

He is a very caring, loving person and has said that with his ex wife once she reached orgasm. . the sex was over.

We are not like that together and he has an orgasm sometimes 2 or 3 times and I always do as well.

I appreciate you for sharing your experience with me.

Wow I have never had a lover that didnt say anything during sex, Is he not a very emanational person or something? or maybe hes thinking about something else during sex, have you ever ask him? I would. You know men have sex because they have to, we as women have sex when we want to, so maybe its that, you know I heard that men need to release the pressure in their testicles after a while to keep them from aching, and for some men that might just become a chore,and its just to get relieved of the pressure and thats that, so when he's not really into a lot of talking or thinking about what he's doing at the time (when having sex) than maybe that could be why.

I had a very quiet lover before. It was the cumming too soon factor. He was very quiet because his sounds would get him too excited...and I had to be quiet because my sounds would get him too excited. I'm not good at quiet.

Funny, I have always had fairly quiet lovers. They were all mostly quiet (except moaning) until the climax. Now I am wondering if that is *normal*! LOL

Oh- also....I am moderate. Not quiet. Not very loud. In the middle somewhere. :)

It's obviously normal for him. There is no rule book about these things. Perhaps he learned to be quiet because he had neighbors nearby. If you'd like some more noises, ask.

Cassy, men don't "have to" have sex any more that women do. Libidos differ. If a man has a buildup of sexual energy it will be released by his own hand or in a wet dream.