A third choice is discretely emptying your mouth into a tissue - neither spitting nor swallowing. Swallowing puts one at risk for tummy upsets, allergic reactions to something in the semen, and a few other unpleasantries. Isn't there a tissue or towel usually handy during sex? There certainly can be as a matter of course.

I don't think it matters if you swallow or spit. At the point of no return, I don't care where I'm pointed. Pearl necklaces are always nice!

If men want you to swallow, first ask them to taste it and swallow. I say, ewww to that! So I don't expect you to do it either.

You have heard from a guy that AFTER he has received a blowjob actually said to you he has felt rejection? Because she spit? It makes no difference to me and it shouldnt matter, that just seems a odd. As far as lying out the linens before it happens, in a perfect world that would be fine but that throws out all spontaneity it would seem and often blowjobs are just that, just deal with it all later...

I tend to determine swallowing or spitting (discretely into a tissue) at the time of the sex and depending on my mood.

Scarecrow, I have to laugh a little at your comment because one of my favorite things to do after a lover cums in my mouth is to share his juices with him in a kiss that he won't soon forget. There is something so erotic, sensual, and on the edge of taboo about it. Mmmm...I just love it.

My ex BIL said the woman he had an affair with would swallow, and that's how he knew he loved her better.

Gag a maggot.

I've done both. I felt like a slut either way. I was only doing it because I wanted to prove how wild I was.

I agree with scarecrow! who cares where it goes, when its going. I think its a matter of choice and that should not belong to me. That is not the part I enjoy the most but oh what a release it is!!

By the same token what if a woman should ejaculate?

Remind me not to kiss you after you blow me...

LOL