I wouldn't like to share a bed with my lover and her dog. Maybe I could if I really loved her and the sex was fantastic and we had a great relationship. But maybe not. I don't know. I can understand why you feel haunted. But if you attempt a reconciliation, it comes with a dog in the bed. Can you live with that?

No matter how you look at this, there is still a dog in the bed when you wake up in the morning. That's not gonna change.

I have three dogs, and a "no dogs on bed" rule. Cat can do as she pleases simply because it's a losing battle to tell a cat what to do. The dogs don't object to my rule, and they don't seem to resent Cat for her privilege....

We had some very magical times together. Strong feelings on both sides. The sex was fantastic! The dog was just too closely involved and interfered on a very personal level for me. She never understood how severely disturbed I became over it. My feelings for her never changed and it was very hard to leave her. I left because I lost faith in our future together and because I lost my healthy perspective on reality. We never even talk and I don't think much about reconciliation. I still miss her even though our relationship turned toxic. ??

I knew, the last time I spent the night with her, that it would be the last time. After a year of dating we made no gains toward resolve of this issue. You're right! Nothing changed. Now, I have an unfair aversion to dogs and something attached to intimacy I don't want... and I can't seem to shake.

If feelings, either for your old love or against dogs, last longer than you feel they ought to, if you can't get rid of persistent feelings you want to shake, that's what a good psychotherapist is for. Consider it.

I've been seeing one for 15 months now. She is wonderful and helping me tremendously. With no drugs or resentment I am making progress everyday. The color is coming back into my world and I am starting to feel joy again. Thank you very much for your advice.

This is funny to me. I went to a Starbucks recently and fell in love with a Neopolitan Mastiff. I asked the owner if I could pet Jericho. He said yes, so Jericho and I had our moment in time and space, I was so enthralled with his wrinkled face and his size (180 pounds) that I check with a breeder to buy one.

The breeder told me that he tells clients not to allow a puppy to do anything that you wouldn't allow an adult dog to do. Anyway, the breeder told me tjat the man later sent photos of his wife in bed with two Neo Mastiffs and that he was sleeping on the floor! So much for establishing dominance, LOL