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Why nice guys dont get the girl!

Posted: Jul 28, 08 1:41pm

I read an article recently that I would like opinions on, it was written by a male and female with PHDs.

The article stated that the arrogant, self absorbed male amplifies his own self worth which is interpreted subconsciously by (most) females as his actual value, in turn the caring, communicating, available male is interpreted by (most) females as less valuable. As a "nice guy" I wonder what the proper course of action is? Stay true to myself? or adjust and basically become that which I am not???

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acertadora

Posted: Jul 28, 08 1:51pm

Definitely stay true to yourself!

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Keith Lowe

Posted: Jul 28, 08 2:00pm

Thank you Acertadora!

It is tough sometimes! but i know that you must sort through the weeds to find the flower.

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hogback

Posted: Jul 28, 08 2:08pm

People rarely get away with being someone they aren't. Ultimately, who you are is very apparent.

Besides, why would you ever think you "won" when you attracted someone who really wouldn't like the real you? How could that possible make you happy?

Maybe you've just been looking in the wrong places.

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Keith Lowe

Posted: Jul 28, 08 2:17pm

I agree looking in ALL the wrong places! LOL I WILL stay true, its staying patiant thats the problem!

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PatriciaWise

Posted: Jul 28, 08 2:25pm

Keith Lowe wrote:

I read an article recently that I would like opinions on, it was written by a male and female with PHDs.

The article stated that the arrogant, self absorbed male amplifies his own self worth which is interpreted subconsciously by (most) females as his actual value, in turn the caring, communicating, available male is interpreted by (most) females as less valuable. As a "nice guy" I wonder what the proper course of action is? Stay true to myself? or adjust and basically become that which I am not???

Dont change stay true to yourself.

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ElvynMystery59

Posted: Jul 28, 08 2:40pm

Keith Lowe wrote:

As a "nice guy" I wonder what the proper course of action is? Stay true to myself? or adjust and basically become that which I am not???

It's never a good idea to try to be someone you are not....and most of the guys that fall into that "other" group are usually jerks and NOT worth much at all! Give me a nice guy who knows how to treat a lady and not be so absorbed in themselves that they ignore their lady!

Stay a nice guy Keith! The ladies will love you more for it!

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Keith Lowe

Posted: Jul 28, 08 2:44pm

Thanks Janella! Made me smile!

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