Posted: Sep 23, 08 1:59pm
Guess this is just my day to be inquisitive. And the pun was not intended. This is a sensitive subject even for me. Over the course of our marriage, both my wife and I have gained and lost weight, I am unfortunately on an upswing right now. (No excuses, don't care to explain, and am doing something about it.) Fortunately, it has had minimal effect on our lovemaking. Minimal but not entirely none. It made me think about the marriages that sour or break up because of weight gain. We are attracted to our spouses for a multitude of reasons. One in particular is their looks. "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." Excessive weight gain can alter those features that we admired most, the ones that got our motors running in the first place. As we age, it becomes harder and harder to maintain our weights. Our physical features change no matter how much plastic surgery we opt for. Do you care about the physical changes your spouse goes through? (Yes, in a Pollyanna kind of way it shouldn't matter but unfortunately all humans aren't wired that way). It has been known to decrease a person's sexual interest in their spouses. Valid or invalid? Selfish or reasonable? Is it a valid reason to seek release elsewhere?
