Colin,

Sometimes we only see what we want to see. I don't know if that makes sense. We hear what we want to hear....

I think that's true for all people, not just women.

we're trying to give men the benefit of the doubt thats why,you men almost always dissapoint us. Hey dont you think we should atleast try? If you know the guy that hasnt dissapointed a woman say I! this is to colinbradt.

Sounds like you've had a recent bad experience? So, I have to ask, do people really have true conversations online? I've said hello to a few men here, a message or two and poof they're gone! Maybe I don't communicate as well as those women you speak of...

no JanetMonti I think their just looking for one thing even 40 an over want sex no strings attached. With all the stds they need to keep it in their pants. Rosie

Could be denial? Could be that we didn't want to accept the red flags because emotionally of something we needed or thought we needed. I'll be the first to say that for me, emotion usually ends up making my decision, instead of logic. I'm working on that.

I think some women (and men too) subconsciously ignore the red flags..they had an idea, or expectation of what was going to happen..Red flags mean its not what they hoped...if they ignore the flag maybe it will change..or just go away.

Unfortunately though, thats just not how life works