Put down the rope. Sign up on Match.com and tell the truth. It's great fun and well worth the small cost.

I applaud you for realizing this about yourself and being willing to do something about it at a time when many people would just roll over. Unfortunately, most legitimate dating sites require some financial outlay, so if that is the way you want to go, it will cost you, but I agree with Pattycake, I can be worth it. I had some success with Friendfinder (not to be confused with AdultFriendfinder). Most importantly, though, get out there! Engage women in conversation; at the grocery store, at the coffee shop, at the drug store. It doesn't matter where. The first step is to put yourself out there. You might have come across many potential dates already. You don't need a rope or plastic surgery. You need confidence, and you will grow that as you succeed in meeting people. Oh, and be careful out there!

There have been many posts on TBD about how to meet people. You might try the online dating sites. Their advantage is that you can cast a wide net quickly and easily. The disadvantage is that on these sites, many (most?) people lie, and when you make connections, you find that many people are flakes.

Beyond dating sites, most TBD members have suggested (1) being yourself, (2) getting involved in activities you enjoy, and then (3) keeping your eyes (and heart) open to see if anyone who enjoys what you enjoy excites you in other ways. Good luck!

I think at one time, sex kind of ruled my life. Everything I did was with sex in mind. I scheduled my life around sex. And I made up for all the sex I'd missed in many years of bad marriage. But, for some reason, I too, have shut the door myself. Funny, I don't really miss it. I made the mistake of making love. THAT'S what DID it!...damn it! Until then, all I ever did was have sex. And I was perfectly happy! But NOOOOO!...I had to meet a lady, fall in love, and MAKE love! After that...every sexual experience paled in comparison. And I found myself constantly comparing the woman I was with, to her...and no one came close. So, after many years of meaningless sex...physical sex, I became disinterested...sex became laborious, by the numbers...and I found my hand and imagination were just fine for me.

It has literally been a couple of years since I have had sex now...and I really don't care. I fill my time snow skiing, sailing, with a sport car, my motorcycle, etc. Only recently have I started missing it again...and wondering if there's any new things out there I missed out on? And my mind says...I will ONLY be happy when there's love involved...and THAT means remarriage...which I will NEVER do again! Have a friend who visits Vegas frequently...but not to gamble...to go to the outlying chicken ranches...maybe he has the right idea? Since I will never give my heart again...I guess I'll have to seek another outlet, eh?

YOU MEET WOMEN EVERYWHERE ---WHERE DO WOMEN GO SHOPPING!!!!!IF U SEE A WOMAN IN THE TOOL SECTION AT WALMART TRUST ME SHES SINGLE AND IF YOU WALK A DOG IN THE PARK A CUTE PUPPY WOMEN WILL MAKE COMMENTS THATS A OPENER FOR YOU TO SHOW THEM INTEREST WOMEN LOVE IT WHEN YOU SHOW THEM ATTENTION SO DONT BE SHY YOU CANT GO WRONG

THIS LIFE IS NOT A DRESS REHEARSAL THIS IS IT KEEP WAITING AND NOT ONLY WILL U MISS OUT ON LIFE BUT LOVE YOUR RIGHT LOVE IS WHAT MAKES IT GREAT NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND SO IF YOUR NOT WILLING TO JUMP RIGHT BACK IN AND TAKE A CHANCE ITS YOUR DECISION THE LIFE U ARE LIVING RIGHT NOW IS WHAT U ARE CHOOSING IF YOUR HAPPY GREAT THEN IF NOT WHAT ARE U GOING TO DO ABOUT IT

Thank you brendadoodle:

Ok!I'm headed to walmarts early tomorrow morning.

Get me a case of oil,and airfilter,spark plugs and antifreeze.

Then lawn and garden,for some flowers.

Next to Pets are us,for a leash and a puppy.

Next to the beauty salon for some hair dye,and conditioner,and bleach.

Finaly the libuary,for dog training books

now to Sams club for a fish bowl.

Once she finds out how my puppy,ate the fish,while I was waiting on a friend to change my oil,and sujest she help pulling the plugs,and as she is bending over,I could offer to do her roots and condition her hair,or dye trying,and If I get the cold sholder I'm ready for that too.I already got antifreeze,I'll give her the flowers if she does a good job on the plugs tho.

I know she has to like the attention of how to safely wash and dry a ladys hair,and bleach it too.

You could be right,sounds simple enough,thanks a bunch.lol!