What you are conveying is geniunely the truth. Sometimes, I believe, people want to connect with others sharing their pain. While other times, I think a smile put upon your face, a heartly laugh, is just what a hurting soul needs. The other groups can give you the comic relief, most probably unseen for a long time. Don't give in, keep asking and posting for others input,for the sameness of medical problems you might have. I know there is someone out here on TBD that will respond with essence back to you. Patience calms the weary heart.

Thanks Colette

Hi happysoul,

Great name by the way :) I too just joined about a week ago. I went a little nuts joining a lot of groups, but this one is one that I really need. Pain is a part of my life each day, and each day I'm trying to find ways to cope better. Some days I feel like everything is going to be OK, and others I'm on a crying jag in my bedroom and I don't think I'm ever going to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

I'm in a chronic pain mgmt program~one that my doc insisted would not carry any stigma, what a crock. If I call the doctor's office for any reason, they immediately let me know in no uncertain terms that I CAN NOT see the doctor until the first Wednesday of the month, as I am one of his 'first Wednesday of the month people' It would be laughable if it didn't piss me off so much. See, my primary care doc is also the pain mgmt doc so when I call for say, a cold that has settled in my chest, etc. the receptionist informs me of the wednesday speech before I can spit out what's going on. There must be a red flag on the computer screen or something. I have a disease that affects my joints, muscles and nerves so I'm a triple threat, lol. I was a stranger to chronic pain up until about 3 years ago when I first got sick. My disease gives me the pain. At my last dr. visit he said that I have chronic pain syndrome...I told him I had a disease that gives me pain. Not a syndrome that gives me pain, I felt like kicking him in the shin. Well, not exactly the shin, but I'm trying to clean up my potty mouth for I am a cusser, LOL. OK, I've rambled enough I think for this morning.

I'll be around if you ever need or want to talk. I too hope the group picks up a bit, but you know, sometimes when things are really bad the last thing we do is turn on the computer. Here's to hoping that everyone is out having a break from the pain and away from the computer for that reason instead of suffering!

Take care and be well,

Michelley

Hi Michelley, Welcome!

I would be cussing too if I was in that much pain. As for your doctor, I think I would get rid of him and find another.

I have some pain, but it's not constant. For example, yesterday, I was at the movies with my husband. I had to take off my sandal because the top of my foot was hurting. It felt like my foot was swollen and the sandal was digging into it. In reality, it was just nerve pain. Most of the pain I get is from spasticity, which is when the muscles are tightening, cramping and having spasms. I also have a lot of chronic neck pain and have for about 10 yrs now. It still isn't constant though. I feel for those of you who have constant pain. I'm really a big sissy when it comes to pain. I am learning to suck it up though.

Nice to meet you:)

I'm sure if we all keep posting here. Others will start to as well.

I have RA. Some days I'm in a lot of pain and some days not so bad. But there isn't a day that goes by that I don't hurt somewhere. If I ever woke up in the morning without hurting, I'd be sure I was dead. I have a really good RA doctor who I love very much. He's has helped me tremendously and is always willing to listen to what I think. I know it's hard to find a doctor, but if I were you I'd be looking for one who cared about me a little more. The stress the medical community puts on people is tragic and so counterproductive to anyone ever getting well or dealing with their pain. Sure hope you find some relief.

Faye