Dear Margevans,

I am sorry to hear that you are in so much pain.

Having your brother to worry about at the same time must be overwhelming. I do hope his surgery goes well.

I am lucky to be covered under my husband's ins. but after my fairly recent hospital stay, I have found myself with pretty large bills to pay, and am not back to work yet...

I sure hope whoever gets into the White House follows through on getting American's health coverage. People work so hard in all different lines of work, yet many go without a way to stay healthy, and feel good.

I will pray for you to feel better, and that you can restore your relationship with your brother.

I did not grow up with siblings, so I am not the one to offer much in the way of ideas on the subject.

There were fall-outs in both of my parents families with siblings. They both came from fairly big families.

In most cases, for them when two fell out in the group, it just took one of them to make the first move, or gesture of love towards the other, and the other one would just melt...I hope this can work for you and your brother. Life is too short, that I do know. You are lucky to still have each other.

Thank you so much.I have reached out to my brother so many times.His wife was in the hospital with a blood clot,I went to see her.

He has melanoma and had a stroke a year ago.I have called and they don't answer or leave a message and he doesn't return the call.

His wife did talk to me once and was nice.I used to just stop in but stopped because you just know it's different.And because of this stupid chronic pain.

He has been doing this since our mom died.We were always close while raising our kids.

My older sister always lived far away up to about 10yrs ago.He doesn't call her much,but did to tell her of his surgery.

I have made many attempts.And I've heard from my daughter that his daughter has tried to talk to him about it.He just won't.

So,I have to accept what is and hope for the best for him.This is his choice.I have to leave it up to him now.I know his daughter tells him I ask about him.

Life is too short.After my mom died,he had a falling out with my dad.He never saw him again,our dad died the day before Easter.He knew and my other brother did too,but they chose not to be there,not even at the end or the service.He did not come to my mom's service.

So,when he makes a choice,it's pretty clear,he doesn't change it.But I keep him in God's light and his family.

I got a phone call from my brother's wife telling me his surgery went well.

I appreciate the kind words.The way it went he should healing quickly.

Thanks again.

Marge

So glad the surgery went well and your sister-in-law called you. Hope you feel better soon. Take care.

Thanks.I have some hard moments to but I'll get there.