Hi Hattie, This is a real delime, ask if you can join their time together some times, if not, you have to understand that he needs his friends to. Also it depends on the situation between he and you, if your not getting along, you need to communicate more,If he knows that your showing insecurities, that can be a turn off twords you with him. Try to set some boundaries between the two, and try get to know the friend more. be her freind aswell "if she dosen't have anything to hide"

As I understand this, your husband has a platonic relationship with this friend. Obviously, I don't know any of the people involved, but I do know from experience that your jealousy and accusations will push him right into somebody else's arms (if not hers).

Do you want more of his time and attention? Do you want him to stop comparing the two of you? Be specific and ask him for what you want. There need be no fights. Tell hin how you feel and what you want. Ask him to put the same into words for you.

If the issue is making you feel uneasy than your husband should understand that, and we know our men, Let him know that the situation is making you upset, and if they are together all of the time than where the heck are you? when they are together,I never leave another woman with my husband or boyfriend not saying that they will cheat, but its not something you make easy for a person . You know? But just let him know what this is doing to you and make it very clear.

I'm so sorry for you're heartache. I may get slammed for my statements as I tend to be a bit old fashion but thought you should hear yet another point of view.

I personally don't believe that a man and woman can be JUST friends unless one is gay. From my own experiences I've found that one or the other has some interest beyond a friendship. I even have a girlfriend who has affairs with married men she works with. Wether they are 50 or 25 she likes them all. I don't agree with her behavior. I know she has some issues with her sexuality. She has been good to me thru my divorce and other hard times otherwise I would've never remained friends. She knows my views so doesn't share most of her relations.

Should my husband want a relationship with another woman I would not be happy. However, I wouldn't want him to feel it was jealousy but instead would explain my expectation for the friendship be a relationship with all spouses involved in the most sincere manner possible. Dinner's together or just drinks.

Maybe this woman would be willing to meet you for lunch sometime. Knowing my girlfriend she wouldn't be able to befriend a woman then sleep with her husband without feeling guilty.

My X had a girlfriend for the last 10 yrs. of our 20 yr. marriage. I kept waiting for him to get over her. He didn't. I threw him out. Best move I ever made.

Sounds like you guys might benefit from some professional help. You're both upset. You're fighting over this. I bet you could benefit from having a referee who can help you both vent, but lovingly.