wow...you're reading way to into it...

Guys masturbate...it's what they do...

Don't worry about it...

What he does by himself and what he does with you are different forms of sex. Both are part of most people's life - self sex and partnered sex. However, sounds like the two of you need to clear up your communications. How you let him know when you're interested, how you feel when he talks about his ex, and what you think about 3ways would all be good places to begin.

I agree with Isadora. Masturbation and partner sex are both sexual, but they are different experiences. Kinda like the big screen and dvd's at home. They're both movies, but different experiences.

Masturbation is our original sexuality. He was masturbating long before he met you. Partner sex is great, but it doesn't replace spending a little quality time with oneself. Most men in longterm relationships continue to masturbate. Women, too.

Now, it's possible that he's using masturbation to punish you for tiffs or to deny you sex. If so, then you guys have issues to discuss. But the mere fact of him masturbating is no reflection on you or on the quality of your partner lovemaking. Sometimes a man's just gotta do what a man's gotta do.

I agree with those who believe that masturbation and partner sex are two different things. Many people (men and women) who are in wonderful, sexy relationships still masturbate.

It does sound, though,that your guy is angry with you and that the two of you have lots to talk about. Using or withholding sex as a form of anger or punishment can poison a relationship. Yours is still new. Have the talks now and work out your communication patterns before they become set in stone.

If you and he have a satisfying sex life and he still masturbates, that's great. If you are being "denied," then that's not good under any circumstances.

masterbation feels good ,thats why guys do it,

"Sometimes a man's just gotta do what a man's gotta do." Wasn't that a John Wayne line from some old film?

Right on, Michael! I like to watch... I've learned a lot that way :) Then I know what he likes and how he likes it when we have foreplay.

That's why us girls do it. It can't be bad if it feels this good.