To me, that would be a red flag in the relationship. I'm a social person. I like to get together with friends, and enjoy hosting dinner parties in my home. If I were with a woman who didn't like people visiting, I'm not sure I could continue in the relationship. But this isn't about me. It's about you. How do YOU feel about your finance's quirk? What does your finance say about it? Can you live with this?

I totally agree with Michael--a red flag goes up. It sounds like your fiance is testing the waters of controlling your life. At one time, my oldest daughter was engaged to a man like that--she called it off 7 days before the wedding and it was the best decision she ever made. Her fiance told her she was too close to her family and that once they got married, he was cutting off all contact with her family. THat was the final red flag for her--there had been others she tried to overlook.

Be careful--is he manipulating you without your realizing it? It starts very subtly and escalates.

Watch out for yourself.

I agree with Michael and kle 618, that would worry me greatly. He may not be all that sociable and prefer to not have lots of company but not anyone, not family, ever? I couldn't live with that and you had better think long and hard whether you can.

Obviously his position is bothering you, and I doubt it will change after you are married. It could eventually lead to him trying to keep you from seeing people outside of the home if you accede to his request.

You might even be on a Maury "controlling husbands" show. That is NOT a good thing.

If he is controlling your life now, it will get worse if you marry him. If he decides what you wear, who you see, what you eat, how much you will weigh, how you will style your hair ... he is controlling and control is an element of abuse. Get out while you still can. The first step is to cut you off from feedback from your family. They are your support system and probably already see through him. Listen to them. You can always find another man. Just don't look in the same toilet you found this one in!

Maybe some individual counseling would help you see how you are being isolated from your own reality and dragged into his. You need to be your own person, not his ragdoll.

Your question says he doesn't like it, but your tag says "no guests allowed." This implies that he is unwilling to have anyone over and doesn't let you have guests either. This feels a bit too controlling for my taste - but my taste is not yours. If you are OK with no friends over, then OK. If you're not, then you must talk with him about what you want and why. See if he is willing to compromise a bit. If not, I'd wonder what else he might not be willing to compromise about.