Posted: Dec 12, 07 6:30am
Hi,
I do not know if many of you remember me but thought I would give a quick upate. I had originally come on here with difficulties in my marriage and improving our communication. In doing so many had mentioned that I needed to set my personal boundaries. I began doing workcourses on setting personal boundaries and building my self confidence. In doing this I realized how much of not only a controlling relationship I was in but an abusive one too. I found a male personal therapist who helped me also. As my husband blamed all the negative advice from therapists due to them being women and one he made me believe was having her own personal issues and placing them on me. This therapist actually agreed with the other therapists that my marriage was very unhealthy.
After trying to reestablish my boundaries things became even worse which I thought could not get any worse. It finally led to more physical threats and more physical harm to me. This was due to me trying to speak up for myself. I was able to file a protective order two months ago and have him removed from the home.
I wanted to thank you for steering me in a direction that helped me in so many ways more than you will ever know. I now am in a support group, have a private counselor (as I needed a free one, he depleted all the funds) and now even use meditation to learn about myself. I had previously found myself in many relationships of the same situation. Now in learning about me I am learning how to prevent this in the future. I am now able to think on my own, have short and long term goals set plus look forward to the future.
Sometimes in being able to thrive we must make the decision to let go.
It is heartbreaking and difficult but you can never fix or help another that does not want to be helped, you can only help yourself.
Take care all and thanks again,
Sasha
