It all depends on the couple's need for eye contact. When you start counting, it ain't love!

Does marriage increase or decrease the amount of eye contact? I wasn't aware that vows affected eyesight. When I was a kid, I heard that certain self-exploratory practices could make you blind but so far, I am only near-sighted. At my age, that might have occurred no matter what I did with myself. On the other hand ...

Staring can indicate attraction, sure, but it can also indicate hostility, curiosity, astonishment, being lost in thought, and a few other things. Measuring in seconds will not give you an answer without considering the people involved, their habits, their eyesight, their body language, etc.

Maybe I should have clarified what I meant. As an observer if eye contact is made by man/woman who are married but not to each other a lingering eye contact of long duration seems odd or might I say suspicious.But if they have bad eyesight both parties are able to have long loving eye contact and its ok?

If they have bad eyesight they might not be staring into each others' eyes at all, but into a foggy and blurry mid distance.

What if that blurry foggy state is arousal? Or attraction? i find myself making not more than an aknowledgement of someone by eyecontact.Nevermind a bonejumping stare.

So what I hear you saying, Chowdahead, is "I don't do it so you must not either".

Some people love to stare into another's eyes, finding it very intimate. Others dislike it, finding it aggressive or obnoxious. So it depends....