Let me be the first of what I know will be a TBD chorus: there are so many conflicting statements/emotions in your post, if ever a situation called out for couples counseling, I think it's yours. Good luck.

29 years wow! I only have 20 under my belt. Nothing i can say will make any of your hurt go away. You truly were in love.And that is what stinks about love it can really hurt some times.

Walking out the door is kind of final but maybee he was just blowing off some steam? You need to do what you feel is right to you not him.Are you sure there was no-one else?

You say that you are not sure yourself yet. That's the key for me. You need to decide what you want and then you can figure out how to get it. If he is making moves toward coming back you need to be very clear if you want him or not. If you can't figure it out, then counseling as an individual is in order. Then, if the two of you decide to try and reconcile, you'll definitely want to consider couples counseling.

Why would you tell someone it "may" be over? You tell them it IS over, or you tell them the relationship requires repair. Once you know which, it will much easier to say what's needed.

Hi all,

From the response it seems that everyone thinks that the one who left is a male.It seems to me that that the one who left is a female.With that beining said I have have to ask,ifit where it were they other way around would the responds be the same?

Your post does not disclose anything about why your mate left, or why he/she may want to reconcile. Without some sense of what's going on with you two, it's difficult to say much beyond what some others have said: Decide what YOU want and try to make that happen. If you want to reconcile, I'd urge couples counseling. I'm glad you love him/her. But love isn't the issue here. It's: Can you work it out to be together?

Yes, my comments would be no different for male of female leaver