Posted: Jan 28, 08 6:26am

I was in a relationship for a year and a half with a women 17 years my senior this never bother wed me. however i noticed she was uncomfortable around certain friends of hers. she would apologize to me afterwords for the way she treated me around others..

we broke up briefly but still dated however she left the impression to some of her friends that we were not boyfriend and girlfriend any longer.. this frustrated me and out of frustration i revealed to another male friend who was in the same church based organization that my ex and i belonged to she is the sponsor for this organization. I revealed some details to him and this guy betrayed me and revealed our conversation.. my ex was really hurt many people got involved and in the end she told me that she didnt want me in her life cause i caused to much trouble for her. she has since then jumped in and out of "i dont want to speak to you" and when she does communicate its usually via text or email.. ive apologized, and ive accepted the fact that the dating relationship is over but she has made it clear she does not want me to be apart of the organization.. im at a loss thought time would heal this ive distanced myself from her but i dont want to stop the organization.. am i missing something how do you try and reconcile with someone who doesnt want to .. ive tried all i know to do it in the spirit of resolution in a way we can both feel good about..

any advice