If you read what you wrote, you have your answer. From your own description, neither of you appears to have the maturity to sustain a healthy relationship.

Why not invest in counseling for yourself instead of in supporting a slacker who won't work? Maybe you will learn why you are wasting your life running around in circles with this chump.

Perhaps you tell him you love him but your description above says you have no idea what love is. You are in a co-dependant relationship and can't let go, perhaps because you are afraid there will be no one else for you. If he is the best you think you can do, you need to reassess your life - quickly.

Maybe my words didn't portray the way i wanted it to. I do know what love is and i know what it should be like. I'm saying he wined and dined me the first few months i guess to catch the bait. He was also working and being everything i needed him to be but at the time i was 21 and not ready for what he was trying to have with me. He lost trust in me because i was pushing him away being that i was not ready for a committed relationship... After all our tribulations we fell for each other all over again but he was having problems keeping work or maybe not wanting to work. He's now 28 and i'm just around the corner from 25. Now we are at a point where i'm tired of "Being the MAN of the house" and he is tired of " Me being the boss of the house" The things that we argue over are petty but he has an attitude where he "Cant Loose" always has to win and be his way because he doesnt own anything so he needs to have control. It's a hard situation to try to explain, i could write a book. We do love each other No questions on my behalf. I do understand when you say i need to learn why i waste my time running in circles. I've always been like this in a relationship, like i can make things better or something. I appreciate your view in my case and i know it may not sound like it but it helps.

Tasha, things are not likely to improve on their own. You can't fix him and he can't fix you and neither seems to be in the position to help the other make the desired changes. I strongly suggest counseling on your own to help you look at your situation more clearly and to make some healthy life decisions. being with someone who can't or won't communicate is a sad place to be stuck.

Yes, counseling. Definitely. In addition, I'd take a hard look at your feeling that you're the "man of the house" because you make the money. Of course, it's a sore point. But relatonships that work are about PARTNERSHIP, not one-up-manship. It doesn't sound to me like you view your relationship as a partnership. Perhaps the therapist can help there, too.