I do and I am. My wife told me if we did not have to have sex we would have a great marraige. I should have told her if she had a better job and could cook we could have a better marraige. That was in January and I have been avoiding her since. never asking for anything sexual at all. As far as I am concerned she is a lemon.

I have been married 8 years in this marriage. I was married 11 years in my second and 15 years in my first. I am a very sexual person and my recent marriage it has been almost three years sense my husband has shown me any affection or had any form of sexual contact with me. I had sex in my first two marriages up until I filed for divorce. this has never been an issue in my life until now. I don't really know what the problem is and when I ask him he just says he can't. We have been to the doctor and he just keeps avoiding the issue. I don't believe in sex outside of the marriage and I don't think I even could out of guilt. SO I know how you feel and that you are not alone in your situation. It may be of help just to know that we are not alone and we have other people who we can talk to about it.

Sign me up, even though I'm not married.

She thinks if she cooks for me and makes cookies that's a good substitute.

I want nookie, not cookie. I ain't getting any younger.

I spend time cuddling, caring for and catering to my wife. Our budget is VERY tight, but she still badgers me about not buying her expensive jewelry and other gifts.

It's a no-win/no-win situation!

me me that seems so familiar, all I want from him is to spend time with me and yes hold me even though he can't get it up that wouldn't matter if he would just reconize me maybe giving me a compliant some time. and yes he gets upset when I bring it up he's working to secure our retirement we're 60 years old when is it going to be enough when we die and can't spend it any way.

I agree with you connie ,lifes to short and you can't take the money with you anyway.

I've been there, 22 years of getting less and less even with the kids grown so I got out. For me holding and kissing is important but for a healthy man that usually arouses another part of us. I didn't expect that to be taken care of after every kiss but it would have been nice every now and then. As the years went by the holding and the kissing stopped as well so there was nothing. How do you know if you are loved if they do not tell you in any way other than cooking and sometimes cleaning the house? I had a roommate that slept in my bed, if there had been another bed that might have not even been the case. Before anyone asks, I was and am a very hygenic person.