How oten do you get it now?

Does he feel he's giving it to you enough?

Hannah,

If you look around TBD (see Desire differences and Sexless Marriage) you'll see that you have much company. Marriage counseling and/or sex therapy can help you two work out something you both can live with.

then give it to yourself.

I give it to myself at least twice a day punkinface.....sure wish you were closer darlin!!

I miss the real thing....I think wifey lost her libido...

My first wife lost her libido in her late 20s. Didn't get it back until I said I wa leaving. (there were many other issues...)

My current wife has strong desire, but we have fallen into the typical trap of parents with kids and full active lives. Tired, too little time, kids will hear, etc.

If it were totally up to me we'd have sex every time we passed in the hall. She SAYS that she'd like that, but reality doesn't prove that she's telling the truth.

You're not alone in your frustrations Hannah.

I heartily agree with you, punkinface. It's been about 3 years now since my husband and I have had sex, although we had been having problems almost since we married nearly 11 years ago. Those problems, which were sexual and other, made me decide to leave him and move to another state. I find taking care of myself is a stress free solution. I don't have to worry about hurt feelings on his part or disappointment on mine.

Sometimes you have to take care of yourself!