Sexless Marriage here.

Sometimes I need to know I'm not the only one in a sexless marriage who doesn't want a divorce.

Sometimes I need to vent about how lonely or confused I am.

Sometimes I feel the need to reach out to others and share my compromise (which is sometimes good and sometimes bad).

I try not to offer advice other than "No Pro and Con lists - focus on the Pros". If there are no Pros then that tells you something.

Yes, I agree. Never offer advice, each situation is different.

I too, hang out here to keep from feeling I'm the only one in this boat.

I'm part of the group cuz my marriage is nearly sexless..I think having sex 7 times in almost 3 yrs qualifies me..

I am in this group because I was in a sexless marriage for 20 years. After I wrote my book about it things got better but there is still work to do on a sexless marriage. Yes, I give advice in my book and it has worked for people who have ordered the book but I totally agree everybody situation is different. It does not hurt to talk about it because maybe we might hear something that can help us get through this.

Not married but many women who I have dated have has sexless marrianges

in dysfunctional marriage hence sexless; like Cloe might have had sex 5 times in 5 years.

Don't ask why I'm in the marriage, just like several others, situational. See other post o n this.

What's YOUR story??

I'm here because I need to deal with the very real possibility that I may never again have real sex for the rest of my life on earth.

To me, that is one tough pill to swallow.

We made the mistake of getting married young (19 & 20). She was my first & only sex partner. For the first 9 years we were deeply in love with each other & had a sex that was almost too hot to handle.

After the kids were born, things changed. At first my desire was low, as was hers. My desire did come back, but hers really did not. I kept telling myself to be patient & give it time, give it time.

The marriage went from loving, to hostile. There were things that I could be faulted for, but she has them as well. We sought counselling a couple of times, when things got to be intolerable. That turned out to be a joke. More so the last time. Even though I thought that the advice was horribly lob-sided, I carried out all the advice given in hopes that the marriage would heal. Our sex life was spotty at best. It was sterile, & hardly worth the attitude I would get.

The general atmosphere in the home was one of walking on broken glass. I could never tell when she would explode or why.

The last time we had sex was in the summer of '99. The road is still rocky & I am not seeing any light at the end of the tunnel.

Another reason I have joined is because I have learned a few things, & maybe it may be relative to someone elses situation.

Why do I stay? There are a number of reasons, but believe it or not I think a lot of it may not be her fault. Her brother is Autistic, my first son is bi-polar, and my second son has Aspbergers syndrome. This leads me to think that maybe there is a genetic weakness that may be manifesting itself.

I am willing to answer any questions that anyone may have if they think it may be beneficial to them.

Any ideas or comments are welcome. Thank you.

Sorry this is such a long post, but a simple blurb just did not seem to work.

Keep smiling.