Posted: Aug 24, 08 9:30am

First I am divorced.

I was involved in a relationship with a well known sex therapist in France

Sexless marriages are not that uncommon and the stories I heard surprised me.

It happens to both men and women alike. One of the factors is a birth of a child and children. The woman's new role upon giving birth is to love, care for and nurture her child. Some men resent this with the feeling of no longer being the focus of love and attention.

Another factor is our highly productive work place with long hours and work morphing into the weekends. Many couples become simply exhausted and sex takes a back seat in the relationship.

The more you push your husband for answers as to the why of it... the more that he will not discuss it.

I have been single for a long time and date a lot. I am amazed when some of the divorce women whom I meet tell me that their marriage was totally sexless in the end or almost sexless.

I do not believe that you can find answers on the board but hope that he will seek some professional help.

Trust me on this... the problem is not you.