...then an angel descended from above and appeared before the shepherds watching over their sheep.

Hello to you Soft-touch,

It is always good to see other crusaders emerge with wisdom from their travels to share among the many others that seek knowledge and understanding. TBD is fast becoming the gathering place of the many...

~Jonathan~

That's beautiful!...and deep Jonathan. Thank you for the wonderful welcome :)

Yes, this is a special place! Glad to have found it. So, you say after a sexless marriage there might be still hope? Just like riding a bike?? :o) I hope so....

Soft-touch,

Can you explain what caused your low sex drive? There are so many reasons one may have a low sex drive so your story may have more relevance to some than to others.

Please share your story.

What a great question! I’m glad you asked…as my hope is we can all learn something from each other. I won’t try to cram too much info in one response, so anything you want to pick up on or need more detail in-ask away.

The reasons for my low/no sex drive were multifaceted. I think they came down to several headings.

1)Emotional- Bitterness/Anger/Hurt man that stuff will tare you apart. I had a lot of hurt and anger towards my husband and the way he would emotionally hurt and manipulate me.

2)Medical- I had undiagnosed and untreated: hypothyroidism, osteoarthritis, fibroid tumors, polycystic ovarian syndrome, I was in a state of estrogen dominance (women hormone balance issues)..on and on

Any of these can cause low libido, let alone together..

3)Hazard of the Job- I was a military wife for 14 years, my husband was out to sea for A LOT of that time. I just learned to shut that part of myself off so it didn’t hurt so badly.

Any of this stuff will do it, and any of this HAS to be addressed. The person also has to want to get into a state of healthy balance. So, for me, I started making moves in that direction, and started working on these problems one at a time and together. Medically, Emotionally, Diet, Exercise, Faith, Wisdom, Knowledge…and my secret weapon….Wild Yam Cream!!!

More on that later…..

Hope some of this is helpful, please don’t be afraid to ask… I want to help :)

This was posted on another board, but I felt like worth repeating here:

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For women who are suffering loss of libido I highly recommend this book.

I'm Not in the Mood: What Every Woman Should Know About Improving Her Libido

by Judith Reichman

http://www.amazon.com/Im-Not-Mood-Should-Improving/dp/0688172253

Other helpful info on this topic:

http://www.newshe.com

Thank you for your story. It sounds like you've been through alot in life. It also sounds like you are coming out on top of it all.

I'm really glad you are here.