I think so!

Chloe, how old is your son? Is it possible for you to separate and yet live close enough that he could spend time with you both every (or almost every) day?

That's why I stay

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My kids were the ONLY reason I stayed. I moved out for awhile and I couldn't stand being away from my kids. So I came back with my tail between my legs and tried to make the best of a bad situation.

In the end, even being roommates proved to be too painful. Luckily, the kids picked me to live with so I came out ahead.

From my experience, a whole bunch of us do - it's probably the most common reason we give ourselves for staying. Whether or not we're being truthful with ourselves is another story.

People keep posting stuff like, "Either fix your marriage or leave", as if it's that easy. Life is complicated. Sometimes the entire menu that life is offering you sucks, and you try to pick the least distasteful thing on it - what else can you do?

Would your husband have to be out of your son's life, or just relegated to weekend visits if you split up? If so, why? In my state, joint custody is now the default, where both spouses get about equal time with the kids.

If you both focus on the objectives and the future, it may be possible to craft an arrangement that minimizes the impact on your son and on your finances. I've seen it happen. Not most of the time, but it is possible. I'm not saying that it reduces the impact to zero. But you can minimize it if you keep your heads on straight, and then you can also try to find fulfillment for yourself.

Having said that ... 11 years and counting. Sometimes advice is easier to give than to follow.

My son is 2 1/2 yrs old.Unfortunately ewb1, my husband would probably just move away if we got divorced. He was married before, and left the state when he and his wife divorced..leaving 2 boys behind. He is always talking about wanting to move to Ca or Az. I feel it would only be a matter of time until he took off. In addition, its not just our son.. we have a business together, and that just cant be seperated cleanly. I am just finding ways to make myself happy despite our issues. I was just wondering how many of us were out there :)