Posted: Jan 19, 08 8:05pm
My wife (49 yo, healthy, no meds, no menopause) and I (61, healthy) had a very active sex life for the 2 years before marriage, and for 5 years afterward (5 times a week). Then, one night, out of the blue, she insisted that I no longer touch her body with my hands or fingers, especially her genital region and breasts. No oral. No "passionate" kissing. She also said "orgasms are no longer important to me". But, we continued to have sexual intercourse, about 3 times a week, and she seemed to enjoy herself a lot judging by her many body actions and her erotic sounds. But, the instant I ejaculated she was out of the bed cleaning herself up and out. No cuddling at all. Then, 6 years ago, one night she suddenly and totally unexpectedly moved out of our bedroom. No explanation was given, and we have not slept together since. Also, we have not touched each other again. No kissing, hugging or getting close physically. No romance, restaurants, concerts, etc.
Sex, romance and passion are extremely important to me in a loving relationship. They make my life whole. I really miss the touch of a woman. A few months ago I decided to divorce her this year, even though most other aspects of our marriage are very good. I told her this and she simply said that I had sex with her too often in the earlier days. I never forced myself upon her, verbally or physically.
Is divorce too drastic, especially considering that I still love her? She does not love me, she said.
