Yo Txcyn - you've probably figured this out, but...whatever you do, don't have kids with someone that doesn't have the same level of sexual desire as yours. This is the voice of experience speaking...:) 24 years of marriage, wonderful kids, a kind, loving relationship...all that. But I would give it all up today for someone who loved all of me, including Tweedle Jr.

Of the times that I've been lucky enough to share affections with other women, they have all been from Austin! What is it about those Austin girls?

I agree with tweedle....don't wake up 24 years later and realize how much has passed you by. I'm of the thought you've already left mentally, it's physically leaving that is so damn hard.

If he's 47 I don't see him changing, and you certainly cannot change him, you can only change yourself or your perception of him.

I wish you luck and happiness on your journey.

Well, his sexlessness will never end. And, even if it did, you are faced with severely discrepant sexual preferences. You need regular sex as an important part of life. He doesn't. He occasionally wanted it, "plain and simple". You need passionate stimulation and variety. Because his sexlessness will be unending, you can only become increasingly frustrated, angry and disappointed over time. Clearly, you are unable to adjust and live with a sexless existence.

I have never heard of a woman who wants children suddenly changing her mind in her 20s and 30s. If anything, the urge will strengthen during those years.

Your lover has shown you what you want and need sexually. Enjoy love, passion, romance and your sexuality. To do these, your marriage is unlikely to last, I'm afraid.

I advise you to see a caring counselor who will help you make the decision to leave or to stay, and then commit to the decision you make with all your heart.

marriage and kids does not equal happiness. Love your self first. Very hard for women to do. Love the fact that you can give life, but dont need too to be a whole woman. I enjoy the fact that I can be comforting and encouraging. But still A FUN LovING Gal :)

dont sell yourself short

hola tweedledum! Kids are not on the horizon for this marriage..even if i was planning on immaculate conception - he does not want kids. I am just completely lost on this relationship; I honestly have no idea what to do or think. He claims to love all of me - but i don't think he really knows "all" of me-not sure if i do yet either. I see many more hours in therapy on this one. I guess i just really fear making the wrong decision.

Austin girls...I think it is more what is in the water in Austin, a few of my relationships have been with men from Austin! If not the water then maybe the music.

mellymel I think you have hit it right on the head. It is too damn hard to physically leave. I am probably the most indecisive person in the world and on something like this, well, it is even more difficult for me to pin myself down and make that choice. I agree, I have pretty much left "mentally" and I think he realizes it - but he still wants me - regardless of the degree in which i am present. Does that make sense?

I know there is no changing him - I have heard the promises of change to only see no change at all. I am probably hesistant to leave physically because of the effect it will have on him. Hell, I have even been told it is that "seven year itch" thing and not the relationship itself. I have a lot of thinking to do and I have to make sure I do not drag it out for another 7 years tossing the various pro/cons around in my twisted mind before making the final decision. Thank you.