If this is the same guy who you are really bored with, and who does not pay any attention to you, let alone being on his cell phone talking to other women instead of to you, then it's likely that his reluctance to buy ED medicines or use them for you in bed are linked. His "not tonight, Honey" is a bit scary, unless he is really embarrased by his inability to get sexually aroused.

It seems as though your relationship has stagnated, for both of you. Rather than contemplate cheating, it would likely be better to spend the time and energy on talking about where the two of you are going together, if anywhere. If you find it difficult to broach these subjects you may find it beneficial to solicit the help of a therapist.

There are many discussions on this topic here at TBD. Do a search on Desire Differences or Sexless Marriages (even if you two aren't married). Some of the comments there might be helpful.

Partner is bi and now isn't into me (for a long time) I'm thinking about looking too. Partner was best friend in relationship for more than 30years. Hurts real bad. I'm lost

I agree. I've always believed that if people were getting the attention that they needed at home, then there would be no need to go out and find it. We all need to pay more attention to each other and learn to communicate honestly about how we feel and what we want. There should be no fear of being open and free at home with the people we say we love and if we can't then we need to leave each other alone.

That is exactly why people "cheat". The cheating did not start with them, they have been cheated out of their normal sex life first.

I think in many cases that is true, it was for me. I felt unloved, unwanted, not worth loving or wanting. What else could I think when I could not even remember the last time she said she loved me let alone made love to me. It became more and more a battle until it was not worth bothering to ask any more.

That does hurt but it's better to know now then find out later. You can decide when your ready to meet other people as friends or more to realize life doesn't evolve around your partner and you deserve better. Life is too short to be unhappy with or without a partner. My husband cheated on me and how I found out......STD, not a pretty way of finding out. He died of a heart attack and I'm getting my life in order for the first time in 12 years, it's never too late to start fresh. Response for Pretty Baby Blue.