(Posted 349 days ago)

Do's and Don'ts:

Be honest, direct and NOT emotional. Choose a time when you are both feeling relaxed and have privacy to talk. If he is not understanding or judgmental, then you have gained valuable information on whether you want to pursue this relationship any further. If your talk is going well you may explain how you are taking good care of yourself (I assume) such as reducing stress in your life, taking medications(if you are). Your partner may be relieved that you initiated this conversation and it will provide him/her with the perfect opportunity to talk to you.

Notice that I referred to BOTH parties sharing information on their sexual histories. A sexual history includes STD and treatment (if any) , how many sexual partners someone is involved/active with, sexual orientation and any precautions that may be necessary (using a condom during the prodrome stage/avoiding intercourse).

Say This:

We have been dating/seeing each other now for XXXX (time) and we enjoy each others' company. I think/know that I am ready to be intimate with you and you are also ready for this. Prior to becoming intimate with a new partner, health professionals recommend a heart-to-heart conversation where both individuals share relevant sexual histories.

So i would like to have a heart-to-heart talk with you. ... I'll go first. I want share to with you something about my sexual past/history.