(Posted 141 days ago)

Do's and Don'ts:

DO NOT give her those tired, old excuses handed out by virtually every cheating spouse (e.g. "It was only once"; "He/She meant nothing to me"; "It will never happen again"; "It just happened"; etc.). If you honestly and truly loved her, you wouldn't have cheated on her in the first place.

DO give her space. Cheating is a huge betrayal of trust, and she's going to need time to process what's happened. DO NOT pressure her on this unless you want to destroy whatever hope there may be for healing this breach.

IF she decides to work on the relationship and try to get past this, DO be willing to work on it with her, in whatever way she feels will help.

If she decides she can't get past this betrayal and she wants to end the relationship, accept her decision. DO NOT force her to do something she doesn't feel she can or wants to do.

Say This:

I know that what I did was wrong, and I have no excuse. I know that I love you, and I know that I want to make things right again. Is there any way that I can earn back your trust?