Hi, believe it or not, some men are turned on by the same things that a woman likes. A man loves to have a woman run her fingers thru his hair. He will like a nibble on the neck, a nibble behind the ear. A good back rub, a lighted bedroom by candle light to see his mate. A dark bedroom is a turn off for me, anyway. I personally get aroused if she is aroused, if she shows passion and playfulness, then I am aroused. Guys ccan tell if a woman is not giving 100% when making love. I can anyway, sense when she is going thru the motions, maybe because shes tired, or has other issues that distract her from wnating to take "time" for a long love making session. I myself connect better with long foreplay. It's the anticipation that get me. i like to give my lady a hot bath and bathe her. I wonder why more guys don't try this. I play roles for her and become her servant. In love making, variety makes a big difference. Try oral first then different positions. new locations, like on a beach at night, a dock, on the deck, in the secluded woods can be extremely arousing. i have made love in a canoe as we floated slowly down a river. It was in a National Park. No one saw us. I usually cannot reach orgasm until I make her orgasm first. it is such a huge turn on for me when her body quivers and shakes and I HEAR HER MOANS AND SCREAMS! Then I feel I met my loving duty as a husband, as a lover and then I relax and can enjoy it. but that is how i handle it. Other guys are different, I like to take the time to enjoy it, savor it, make it last, until your sheets are wet from sweat, and all of the other juices, if you know what I mean! I don't know what else to tell you, except to read up on some of the good articles on Tantra love making. I have learned some decent methods, and understand the basics of it. If you do tantra right, you can get a real rush out of the climax and its usually out of this world for enjoyment for your mate. Good luck, Kurt

Thank you for your comments I'll look for the Tantra love making articles. I never had to work this hard at turning a man on before and I never had any complaints, maybe it's the age that we are at right now and it takes more for my partner to get aroused. If you come up with more stuff or information please let me know.

Thanks again

the karma sutra is great book for idea's,but honestly it shouldn't be hard work,the best thing to do is enjoy what you have,take your time and explore every inch of his body,like its the first time you've ever seen it,make him wait,build up to the main act..touch it kiss it play with it but make him wait,until he's so built up he's ready to explode anyway.

lol , love it ! we are human beings we want love , just caring for each other , and saying nice things and doing nice things for each other ,sex is looking deep into each others eyes and loving what we have .

To me, if you do something to make sure he knows you enjoy his attention, try something bold, maybe share a porn tape, or discuss a sex scene you've seen in a movie...talk about what actor or actress you'd never turn down if you had the chance...I don't think it takes much to open up the discussion for men, they just don't want to ruin what they already have, so they tend to wait for signals.