(Posted 208 days ago)

Do's and Don'ts:

Do not want to be too blunt

Say This:

Together a couple years. Middle aged. Previous marriages for both of us. DH and I discussed anal a couple times and both said we were not interested. Had tried it once in our youth (with other people) and it was not good. Now, I have changed my mind. I have done some self-fingering and want to try more. I believe he thinks it's literally dirty (we talked about how people probably prep first) and maybe dirty in general since he has a fairly religious background. He also has refused me fingering him/prostate massage. Says he will let me know if he changes his mind. What can I do or say....and how should I say it to explore it further...at least with me as the receiver.